Oh…the flying monkeys

Some people think it’s within their rights to ask you questions that are insensitive, especially when they are questioning your choices to get out of a toxic environment. If you’ve had to remove these toxic people from your life because they just cannot seem to understand your boundaries, do you get questions like “what? How…

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Disobedience or Boundaries?

A common thread with abusers is they seek out people who they can manipulate. They look for empaths, for people who are more emotional, and people who have been “trained” to obey without question. Notice I said, “without question.” That’s because In some cases, okay a lot of cases, it’s good to be obedient. From…

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My Anger Was Killing Me.

Changing myself was probably one of the most difficult things I have done because there was so much trauma stored in my body that my natural reaction was to respond with anger and to remain angry for hours, possibly days, to seemingly small situations. But as I’m writing this today, I can tell you there…

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A Snippet of my Past

I am going to attempt to talk about something that really only my family and my husband’s family know about. Talking about my relationship with my mom is a particularly tough subject for me, mostly because I’ve worked really hard to get past some of these things. The problem is? I don’t think I’ve fully…

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Postpartum Depression

Have you known someone, or maybe have been that someone who suffered from postpartum depression (PPD)? Studies show that PPD can affect about 10-15% of women. This may not seem like a lot, but with the high amount of births in the US alone (just under 4 million), this percentage equals a staggering high number…

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Adverse Childhood Experiences – The Sad Truth

Okay, so I keep mentioning Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) in my posts and blogs, but why? Well, there is an abundance of research on ACE’s now after a study was done in the mid-90’s that showed a correlation of adverse childhood experiences to all sorts of health risks; smoking, drugs, alcohol, sexually transmitted diseases, higher…

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Trauma: What is it, and why does it impact us differently?

Us survivors of traumatic experiences tend to know others with similar experiences. Feel free to weigh in on this subject. I’d really love to hear your experiences and how it impacted you throughout your life, and maybe those around you. Do the way they live their adult lives differ from you? Are there similarities? I’ve…

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Controlling your thoughts — Is it possible?

Hi everyone and thanks for supporting and sharing. Welcome to our family of survivors.  Throughout our blog, we will be sharing some of our innermost secrets about our past, things that we don’t just share with everyone, because quite frankly, we just don’t want to hear the judgmental tone in people’s voices, or the fake…

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